Dads Worry Too
February 10, 2020, Dr. Dorfman was published in Psychology Today about dads and arguments with their teens.
Dear dads: Arguments with your teen could be rooted in anxiety.
Although, as a culture, we often stereotype moms as the parents who are anxious about their teen‘s future, the reality is, fathers have anxiety about their teen’s prospects too. Whether it’s related to academics, sports, or having the “right” friends, fathers also fear that internal or external factors will block their child from success—they just may be less inclined to recognize and call it anxiety.
When I work with fathers who frequently argue with their teen, they often say (loudly):
- ” He/she’s gotta learn x about life!”
- “She/he is going to need x to succeed!”
- “I’m just trying to protect him/her from x!”
- “I’m just trying to prevent x from happening to her/him!